The Silent Treatment!!!!

Wow! that’s all I can say! (covers face) I know my last blog said I was back full-time and then I just went off again ( yh yh I know).  Am sooo  sorry (puts on puppy face), there’s just been too much to deal with and in life one has to learn to  prioritise in every situation. Still not enough excuse,  but I apologise all the same.

Now to the matter at hand, hmm I want to talk about silent treatment. First of all, for those who do not understand what silent treatment is, it’s simply a way of communicating with someone without using words because they have offended you. Well correct me if am wrong but this is mostly common among girls or ladies like most of us like to be called (smiles).

Silent treatment mostly happens when someone has annoyed you and you expect them to use their sense to just magically know what they have done wrong. Now this is not you  telling the person ‘hey you offended me by spilling my drink’ , this is you ignoring the person when he/she says hi to you or just giving faces. Now I hope I have explained what silent treatment is all about.

I was reading an article and it just struck me that silent treatment could actually destroy relationships. When I say relationships, I don’t necessarily mean Man/Woman, I mean relationship generally e.g family, loved ones, friends and so on. Sometimes we do things that are clearly wrong and try to convince ourself that they are right. You never understand how silent treatment hurts until its done to you.

Am not trying to sound like the ‘all perfect Kemi’ , I am certainly guilty of this myself but like I would always point out, part of what defines our strength is the ability to always learn from our mistakes. I have also noticed that silent treatment could actually cause emotional stress for the receiver.

What is my point? My point is, communicate with words instead of punishing that person, and like my father would always remind me ‘two wrongs don’t make a right’. So when you decide that someone has offended you and you want to use your skills (silent treatment) to deal with the person, think of how the person might feel and if you would want it to be done to you.  So call that person you are giving silent treatment and sort out your issues today.

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It’s been a minute!

Am sitting here on the bus from work thinking ….why have I neglected my blog for so long 😦 maybe because I have been involved in loads of things over the past few months or maybe because the inspiration to blog kinda ceased..lol. Anyway here I am, back with full force ( well I hope!).

Over the months, a whole lot has happened. Made mistakes, learnt new things, moved closer to God, made new friends, break-ups, make-ups, met targets, visited new places and so many more. Above all, no regrets whatsoever, thank God for that.

Today I haven’t got much to say, I just wanted to point out something. If u aim to reach a goal (positive :p) or achieve a target in life, don’t ever let anyone or any situation reduce your level of determination or confidence. In order words believe in yourself! Even if people decide to turn against you, still believe in yourself, work hard and ofcourse Pray. Oh! And don’t ever forget, God always has the best plan in place for you.
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Dear Daddy,

Permit me to make a small introduction just to clear the air, I promise it will not be so long.

Being a father isn’t a small job that anyone can just undertake, it involves lots and lots of duties. It is one thing to be a man, another thing to be a husband, but being a father is something that is entirely different from the first two.

Well, Someone can have attributes of a being a man and not of the other two. For instance, a man just has to fend for himself and  his family e.g. his parents, siblings and other extended families (optional).

A husband on the other hand has an additional mouth to fend for, i.e. his wife. He has to take care of his family, and also take care of his wife (hmm.. his wife’s family too). He has to be able to strike a balance between the two of them without causing problem. He will be required to attend to the needs of his family as well as that of his wife.

Now the most difficult one out of the three is the FATHER, by being a father, a man has the responsibility to provide for his children without leaving out the responsibilities of being a man and also being a husband. A father combines four responsibilities meaning, he has to fend for himself, he has to look out for his family by taking care of his ageing parents and unmarried younger siblings, he has to attend to his wife’s needs by acting as a responsible husband to her, and lastly he has to be a loving father to his children.

Daddy, when I look at you I see an ambitious man, a man who does not settle for less but would always work hard to reach a better position, a man who grabs the golden opportunities in life and makes the best use of it, a man who is ready to go any length for those he loves, a man who gives the best advice, a man who thinks it’s never too late to pursue your dreams, a man who never relents on his effort, a man who is an helper, a man who is more than a friend, a man who is not put back by difficulties but sees them as challenges he must undertake, a man who one can always rely on, a man who I would always love, above all I see a father.

Looking back to where it all started from, it gives me joy to see that we have come a long way and you have always stood by me. You have been a mother and a father at the same time (going by grandma’s definition of you). Even those times when I was the ‘not so good child’, you chastised me and always found a way to draw me closer again, you always drew me close even when I did not appreciate the things you did then.

To say it like it is, daddy you have been my source of inspiration and my role model, you’ve taught me to pursue my dreams no matter how hard things might seem, you’ve taught me never to settle for the bare minimum but to always aim high, you have taught me to accept life the way it is, you have helped me to know that I cannot always get everything I want the way I want it but I can always make good use of every situation I find myself in, with your help I have found my inner strength and potential, today I see difficult things and decide to do them not because I love them but because my daddy has taught me that there is no such thing as ‘difficult’ you just have to pray and search for your inner potential and strength to do it.

You are the reason why I will rather research on questions to get answers than rely on people because you have taught me to learn to be independent, you are the reason why I decide to solve the same maths question for close to 1 hour until I get it just because you tell me to never give up, you are the reason why I dream positively and work towards achieving a goal in life because you always say, to achieve a goal in life I have to be positive in my thinking. Sometimes you might not say the nicest words when trying to explain things to me, but looking past those words, I see the love that brings about those things you say and this motivates me to work harder in everything I do.

Going by general definition you might not be the richest father, but when I look at what you have achieved for yourself and when I listen to you talk about your aspirations and dreams.  I say to myself  ‘this man is the richest father’ because by my definition the richest father is a father who has goals and still strives to pursue them even in his old age.

Daddy you have been wonderful, I couldn’t have asked God for a better father because you are my definition of the best father. In my prayer, the major thing I always pray for is for me to make you proud, and for me to make you experience the joy of fatherhood.  If there is one wish and prayer I would make to God, it would be for God to preserve and keep you so that you can eat the fruits of your labour. Thank you so much for everything, I love you forever and a day more. Happy father’s day ❤

With love from Oluwakemisola

My beloved country

‘’Nigeria my beloved country

Working together is the key

Nigeria my beloved country

Our future is you and me’’

This was a song by Funmi Adams for Nigeria and many seem not to listen to songs like this again due to evolution of songs by modern artists. I used to listen to this song when I was little, and I had an uncle then who helped me to memorise the lyrics of the songs so much that it became my favourite song and I sang it almost everywhere I went.

If only GEJ would listen to this song and also listen to great nation by Timi Dakolo, he would probably gather some motivation to act up. Motivation to address the situation at hand with wisdom and proper sense, everyone keeps saying we need prayers, of course we do but then what will the prayer do if the so called leaders are busy spending lavishly when in fact they should be protecting masses. It’s just like going to an exam but you decide not to read and say I’ll just keep praying which kain miracle you dey find? Dame patience keeps shouting that pastor Adeboye has prayed for her husband well good enough he has, but still Nigeria needs strong leaders, leaders who have a sense of direction, leaders who understand the meaning of prioritising, leaders who would put the interest of the public over their selfish desires, leaders who would not put the life of people at risk all in the name of money.

153 people died!!! That is just saddening, everyone keeps saying GEJ was not the pilot but have they for once thought of the fact that he is the president and that he has power over every sector in the country, have they thought of the fact that he could have banned that plane from operating due to its malfunctioning, have they thought of the fact that instead of buying stupid private jets he could have tried to grant subsidies to the aviation sector, so they can get new air planes. The plane was 22 years old, if people are not allowed to bring in cars of more than 15 years why then would you allow a plane of 22 years to fly, yet again it all dies down to selfish desires. Then people blame Dana air for being selfish and considering profit, of course they would when the so called leaders of their country aren’t any better than them. They all spend money lavishly on luxuries, send their children to the best schools, and drive the best cars while the people they serve wallow in poverty.  If GEJ had sense of direction, he probably would have noticed things like Dana air plane of over 22 years and not things like changing the name of a University. Then he thinks of going for 2015, gosh the love of money is the root of evil indeed because if he loves this country as he claims, he would not even venture into thinking of another term. Fair enough, they are now taking actions, but these should have been taken long time ago, human lives do not need to be lost before the leaders take actions.

Am not blaming GEJ for the loss, because I get the fact that corruption is what made the owners of the airline put the lives of 153 people at risk, but if the government is going to stop corruption from happening then it should start from the government itself. You can’t be a corrupt leader and try to lead your people from corruption, No! You lead yourself out first and then you can bring your followers out. I think the main solution to this is to wipe out all these corrupt leaders especially all those PDP members because the government basically revolves round them and Jona was just a scape goat that was used to carry out their selfish and wicked acts. If he loves himself, I say again if Goodluck Eberechuckwu Jonathan loves himself, he should not go for another term. Simples!

I know my ranting will not bring back these lives, neither will it console their families but I just thought I needed to voice out my opinion (which I feel is the truth) to clear my mind even if it means pouring my heart out on my blog at least that’s my best friend for now. May all the souls of those that departed rest in peace, and may God keep and guide the families they left behind.

 

A slap to be remembered!!!

I watched a clip from big brother star game, not that I watch it often but I just decided to go and do gbeborun when I heard that some dude slapped a girl (yeah I love doing gbeborun once a while..lol). The first thing I said when I heard was ‘’naah it is wrong to hit a girl’’, but then I wasn’t going to judge until I had watched the video. So I watched the video on YouTube, and what amazed me was the fact that people kept talking of how it was wrong for the guy to hit her but no one mentioned how it was wrong for her to have provoked him. You don’t provoke a guy and expect make him siddon dey look you except the guy na very cool-headed young man like someone I know…lol

I mean who goes to peep on a guy in the bathroom when he’s not your b.f or your husband (wetin you dey find?). Well I know that big brother is a stupid show that condones all sort of immoral acts but if the guy doesn’t feel comfortable with the girl peeping on him then she should have gotten the memo that he does not want to do mummy and daddy..lol and she should have apologised instead of insulting him. Come to think of it, she asked for a slap and he gave her, so people should not only blame the guy for slapping her, they should also blame her. That is why it is not good to ask for anything without thinking because you never know you might just get it.

The words that come out of some women (especially Africans), are terrible because they can push you to the wall and even push you farther than the wall sef if space still dey. I mean women/girls/ladies (whichever one you call yourself) should watch their mouth; sometimes the words of your mouth may save a situation. For instance, if when the guy came to talk to her, she had apologised, the guy would have left without doing anything but the fact that she was swearing at him and even ran to block his way provoked him. The thing wey pain me the most be sey, some women na only mouth them get(errr I think am one..lol) they can’t fight, so why disturb the sleeping dog? Hmmm..please women should watch the way they talk to men.

Now for the guys, guys shouldn’t hit a woman regardless; in extreme situations the best thing to do is walk away. In fact do not exchange words with them, because that way you are showing maturity in its highest form. If the guy had just walked away when she asked for a slap he would have averted the trouble and they would not have gotten disqualified.Men should understand that some women talk like parrots(radio without batteries), they can talk for africa, they can say very mean words, but it is your duty as a guy to just keep calm and ignore her till she don finish.

As to my opinion, I feel two of them deserved to be disqualified and they should be sent to go for anger management class.

Please remember I said, I don’t watch big brother because on my part  I feel it’s a stupid excuse for a show, I only watched it just to see what people were yarning about. The end of my ranting, thank you for reading :D.

This is the video if you have not seen it http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=esvIoO_b8NM

N:B: Gbeborun means errr poke nosing(for those who do not understand..lol), and siddon means sit down..:)

A new month

A new month, a new beginning, a new start; it’s a new month and it’s precisely the month of June. The month June depicts a beginning of the second half of the year. It’s been a wonderful journey for me so far in the year 2012; I have made friends, learnt lessons, developed my communication and listening skills and grown closer to God.

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In the beginning of a new month, you should sit and ask yourself of the achievements you have accrued in the past month,  the things you have failed to do, the commitments you have failed to stand by, the promises you have failed to fulfil, the mistakes you have made and the lessons you have learnt. Now coming into the new month, you should endeavour to analyse these things and point out where you have done well and where you have not. In those areas where you have done well, you should try to keep your performance steady as you enter into the new month and in those areas where you have failed, try to ponder on the things that might have gone wrong, why they have gone wrong and how you can make it better. Ask yourself what you have achieved so far this year, if you cannot pin point anything, then its not to late to start working towards achieving something, so that at the end of year you can look back and say I have achieved this in the year 2012. A quote read thus: ”you are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream”

On a side note, I love this month!!! Lol. It’s my brother’s month, it’s the month when I finish my exams, its the month that shows  summer is fast approaching and lastly it makes me appreciate God so much, because half way through the year and am still alive, hale and hearty. No matter what problem you might be facing at the moment, put those worries aside because the fact that you are alive today is enough reason to show you that God cares. So don’t worry because everything is going to be fine: D

Happy new month everyone: D……Welcome to the second half of the year!!!!!!

A man of Vision

I would say the past few months have been really stressful, mostly due to the pressure from work and school,  couple with the fact that I have had to make some decisions that did not just go well with me. It got to a point when I sat down to ask what exactly was going wrong because the pressure seemed to be like a never-ending thing. This got to me so much that I could not even hide my anger, it was written all over my face. I started experiencing mood swings, happy this moment, sad another moment.  Then I said to myself Oluwakemi you can’t keep going on like this; anyway,  I braced myself up and said no matter what I will get through this. Now this brings me to my story

Long time ago, my aunt made me read a book written by this Nigerian guy, she did not only make me read it, she made me summarise it in writing. I felt that was punishment, two A4 pages of writing a story, gosh! All I did then was to just read the book and summarise without digesting its content. Little did I know that the contents of the book were powerful and inspiring.  Some days ago I found the A4 paper I used in summarising the book, I sat down to read it and I found out that it made more sense than I thought. When I read it, it felt like a load had been lifted off me; it felt like I found that motivation I was craving for.  You know sometimes when you feel a bit down and feel like everything is not going as you expect it to go, you just need that motivation, that encouragement, that vision to show you that you have a focus, the contents written on this piece of paper served as my motivation that faithful day and even till now it still does. I said I was not going to do any blogging until after my exams in June, but then after I read that piece of paper, my spirit lightened up and I told my self that I just had to share it, so here we go.

Martin Luther King and Abraham Lincoln

           

    Vision is the ability to see and also an ability to plan the future with great imagination.

  •  A man with vision is someone who possesses the ability to see what others do not see and think what others do not think. This can be explained in the sense that a man of vision is not taking in by failure, but says there is success when others are crying failure.
  •  A man of vision is upright when others are failing, not because he has the magic power but because he sees himself as a winner. A man of vision is always at rest and not frightened by difficulties for he knows what his future looks like. Becoming a man vision is not just a thing you say by mouth but you have to put in some actions to support your words.
  •  A man of vision always trusts in God because God has a planned life for us even before we are born.  God knows the future and our future can only be bright by depending on him to plan it for us.
  • A man of vision is never of anxious for anything because he will not be moved by any negative happenings. Since he knows what his future looks like; all he has to do is work towards it gradually with dependence on God.
  • If you want to become a man vision then you must never give up because winners never quit and quitters never win. Examples of men of vision that did not quit despite the troubles were people like Martin Luther King and Abraham Lincoln. Abraham Lincoln was defeated in business, legislature, as house of speaker, for the elector, the congress and many more, but still he did not quit because he had a vision. He later became the 16th president of the United States of America.
  •  One must see failure as an opportunity for success because a man of vision never accepts failure; rather he sees them as a set up for success just like the case of Joseph in the bible. Joseph had his brothers against him even to the extent that they plot to kill him, the wife of his master was also against him but he still succeeded because he never gave up and the Lord was with him
  •  As a man of vision, ‘’your vision determines your future’’. The poorest man on earth is not the man without a dime but a man without a vision. Most people are greatly packed with ideas but no vision to pursue them.
  • A man of vision must be focused and keep away from distractions because their aim is to distract you from being what you want to become.
  • A man of vision maintains positive attitude because those without vision, live in defeat, dream defeat because they never think of making it in life and they also think that success just comes by luck.
  •   For a man of vision, nothing is impossible because he depends on God’s word which says ‘With God all things are possible’’ so when everyone sees a situation as hopeless, he still believes that there is still hope.

Now from me to you: You have a future, depend on God, and trust in him for he has the master plan of your life. As a man of vision you must dare to dream big and I repeat DARE to, no matter how massive it might seem, never belittle a small start because to make it in life you have to start from somewhere. You should also make God’s word your standard and meditate on it day and night because God is faithful to those who follow him. Lastly, a man of vision must begin with the end in mind not minding how rough the road may be because you know someday you will get there.

I hope reading this has helped you just like it helped me. Thank you for reading 🙂

How strong are you in the face of difficulties?

Wow..being a while people, I have had so many people asking of my blog and how it’s coming up, so much love from everyone. Thank you people, it gives me joy to know that people care that much..:)..

My post for today was inspired by events that have happened in the past few weeks , so many things have happened..uhmm..I’lld say its being challenging so far but still, i thank God because He has being so faithful to me. Here we go;

‘Life is not a bed of roses’ many people really use this adage but only few people understand it to the deepest part. On a serious note though, life is made up of the good and the bad, it can’t just all be smooth, there is bound to be some rocky part. At one time or the other we have all had this time in our life where we have had to face some difficult situation, but the thing is, our strength lies in us making the best out of that situation. Difficulties in life are like challenges to see how strong you are, to see whether you are faint hearted, and to see how well you can withstand not living an easy life . Difficulties challenge you; it’s just like someone saying to you ‘common let’s see what stuff you are made of’. They try to overcome you by putting you into messy situations. The question is how do you overcome these difficulties?

Having an optimistic mind helps you to know that no matter what situation you are in, you would surely overcome it. If you are in a difficult situation and all you can think of is how to commit suicide, how you are not going to make it, or how you want to give up so bad, then you have a long way to go in building your determination. My dad would always say to me ‘a pessimist would see a glass cup with water filled up midway and say the cup is half-empty, meanwhile an optimist would see the same glass cup and say the cup is half full’. This explains the fact that people see life from different perspectives, a pessimist would only focus on the bad aspects of life while an optimist would try to see the good aspects of life or even see the bad and make the best out of it. A pessimist focuses on what is missing, what he or she doesn’t have – the half empty glass. An optimist, on the other hand focuses on what he or she has- the half full glass. What you tell yourself when you are in a difficult situation matters a lot because that determines your strength and weakness at that point. What do you tell yourself in the face of difficulties?

  • Do you say- I am definitely going to fail or you say I will pass no matter what.
  • Do you say- I feel like committing suicide now or I will overcome this problem because my God is bigger than it.
  • Do you say- I am going to give up or you say I am going to endure till the end.

What exactly do you say to yourself?

Here is a way out, when in difficulty think to yourself, I have an ambition, I am destined to be great, whatever problem I am facing right now is just a test of my strength and faith, nothing will stop me from succeeding not even the most difficult problems of life, I can do this!. Thinking positively this way will help you overcome your fears of whatever problem you have got.

The main point I would like to draw from all of this is- never ever let your difficult situations bring you down. Also for every situation you find yourself, always thank God because if you are shown the life of every single person on this earth, you would find out that there are people with worse situations.

The fact that you are alive, that you can walk, see and talk is more than enough reason to be happy despite the difficulties. Life can be full of difficult situations but it is up to you to make those difficult situations into favourable ones.

One last thing, whenever you face a difficult situation, have that faith and look up to God, He is right there just waiting for you to call on him…:)

I’ll leave you with this quote I found on the Internet;

The real man smiles in trouble, gathers strength from distress, and grows brave by reflection – Thomas Paine

 

Should you judge a book by its cover?

I am indifferent about this so I have come up with the idea of presenting two sides of the story because there are two sides of a coin. Here we go;

Why should you judge a book by its cover?

Only a desperate and unsettling person would judge a book by its cover. I’ll start with this adage ‘Not all that glitters is gold’. The fact that a book looks good on the outside doesn’t mean the story in it is interesting and  just because a book looks ugly does not mean it doesn’t contain an interesting story . Whatever happened to having an inquisitive mind. These days, people are so engrossed with the front page that they never bother to look inside to find out what the content entails. This applies to human beings as well, we focus on outer views of human and we judge them just by looking at them.

  • A girl has dressed in skimpy clothes; does that mean she’s a prostitute? She might just be a sweet loving person on the inside.
  • A guy uses studs  and has many revealing tattoos; does that portray him as being bad? He might mean no harm and  just see it as him being fashion conscious.
  • Someone has dressed shabbily; does that mean nothing sensible would come out of their mouth? they might just be the one who have the sweetest words.
  • Why judge a book by its cover, when you can know more about it just by reading the story in it.
  • You met someone once and he/she did not sound nice to you, does that mean that’s their behaviour? You never know, they might just be having a bad day.
  • If a house looks good on the outside; does that mean the inside is sparkling clean? It might even by dirtier than a slum.

I agree that it is a long process, having to open a book to view its content, when you can just glance at the cover and conclude. Hmm.. Don’t forget, sometimes treasures can be hidden in the dirtiest places; it is left for you to decide if you want to just take a glance at the dirty place and turn back or if you want to go in search of the treasure even if it means getting into dirt. This is why I feel you should not judge a book by it’s cover.

Why should you not judge a book by it’s cover?

The package of something depicts how lovely the contents are.

Take for instance  someone gets you a gift, and this gift is in a torn and shattered wrapping paper, right there you are thinking ‘why does this look so ugly’.  Its not about you not being appreciative, it’s just the way the mind works. On the other hand, if the gift was in a lovely wrapper, the fact that the package alone is lovely makes you have that good feeling of the content. This is just the way it applies to human.

  • If you decide to dress in skimpy dresses, don’t be surprised when you get harassed, it’s because of the way you have packaged yourself.
  • If you’re a guy and you use studs, don’t be surprised if people tend to think you are bad, it’s because of your package.
  • If you have many revealing tattoos all over your body, don’t be surprised when people in public give you bad looks. It’s simply because of your package.
  • If  the only way you think you can dress is by wearing torn clothes all in the name of fashion, don’t be surprised if people see you as someone who’s not serious. It’s simply because of your package.
  • If you have acted badly to someone on your first meeting, don’t be surprised when the person makes a conclusion about you. It’s only because ‘first impression lasts forever’.
  • I was watching this singing audition the other day and this guy came in looking all dirty, and the first thing the judge asked was ‘do you think I want to listen to you with the way you look’. As much as that sounded rude, it was the truth, you wouldn’t want to venture in to details if the package doesn’t look attractive. It’s not every now and then, that you have the time to open the pages of the book.
  • This is why i feel, a book deserves to be judged by it’s cover, because the cover says it all.

Now relating this to the real world, my question is, should we focus on making our cover attractive forgetting totally about the details of our book?. The cover here can be our appearance, and the details of the book is what comes out from us, words of our mouth, character we possess, behaviour we display. On the other hand, is it possible to make your cover look attractive and also make the contents interesting without having to compromise?…Hmmm..

Time

Last week was quite stressful and I am so happy it came to an end…*sighs* was it the numerous course works? Or the endless assignments…Hmm…All the same I thank God I scaled through safely. There was this particular coursework I left unattended to, until the deadline, and I had to start rushing on the deadline, just to make sure that I handed it in. If only I hadn’t left it until so late, maybe I wouldn’t have had to start rushing which kinda resulted into me making silly mistakes. Procrastination they say is the thief of time. This brings me to my post for today. ‘Time’

Few days ago I sat thinking of exactly what time meant, but to my utmost surprise, I couldn’t even come up with a better description other than time= distance/speed. Well before you judge my definition, am actually right in terms of physics…lol. As at the time, I was writing this post, I still had not come up with a definition for ‘Time’. What is time? How do you differentiate one time from the other? Is it just common sense or is it way more than that?

I would say its way more than that because, if being able to differentiate time was just common sense, then a lot of people will not be doing things at the wrong time or on the other hand, maybe its just common sense with people preferring to turn their back on the truth.  You know you are meant to be doing something at a time but you choose to do something different all because you are hiding from the truth. Sometimes we even waste our time unknowingly, and sometimes we lie to ourselves just to enjoy the fun of the moment. When I say ‘fun of the moment’, I mean, you deciding you want to spend your time on something with a ‘short run’ benefit than spending it on something with a ‘long run’ benefit. I’ll give an example of trying to enjoy the fun of the moment. There was this girl, she loved having fun, fun in terms of going out, partying, having a boyfriend(at least that was fun to her). Her parents wanted her to focus on school, but no! She turned deaf ears because she felt it was going to take so much effort for her to ignore all the fun part of her life and then focus on school. To her she was enjoying ‘life’, but what she did not know was that she was wasting ‘Time’. All she focused on was enjoying the ‘fun of the moment’.  Years after, she ended up being at the wrong place at the wrong time, all because she did not utilise her time well. Don’t get me wrong, there’s absolutely nothing bad in having fun, or having a boyfriend/girlfriend but the lesson from this is for us to PRIORITISE, do the right thing at the right time. My supervisor in sec school would say ‘suffer now so you can enjoy later’. I was so ignorant of what he was saying then, because the only thing I based my analysis on was the word ‘suffer’. How can he ask us to suffer?  That’s wicked; these were the thoughts going on in my naive mind then. Well now, I can fully analyse it and explain that what he meant was, make good use of every time and every opportunity you have now so that in future you can benefit from the fruits you have planted.

As much as the truth hurts, we sometimes have to relate to it, have you ever sat down to ask yourself ‘How well do I use my time’ what do I use my time for?

Am I reading when am supposed to be reading, partying when am supposed to be partying, praying when am supposed to be praying, chatting when am supposed to be chatting, am I in this relationship at the right time, am I in this job at the right time, is this the time to focus on whatever I am focusing on right now, am I at the right place at the right time?  Am I starting this project at the right time? How well can I differentiate my time? Time is so powerful, that once it is lost, it becomes the past, and you can not regain it. Do I sound like miss perfectionist? Well I have got my flaws as well, but what helps you to correct your flaws is when you come in terms with it, accept you have gone wrong and make amendments. At one point or the other, we have all spent our time doing the wrong things, no doubt. We can not be so perfect in terms of using our time efficiently, I agree! but my point here is, we might not be able to become all perfect with using our time, but we can start gradually by experimenting with little things.

Time is like a precious treasure that has been put into your care, it is left for you to decide how to nurture it, would you rather treat it well by making good use of it or would you maltreat by not using it well. It’s up to you. Time is like money that has been given to you for investment, the obvious aim you would want to achieve on the long run is to make profit so that the money multiplies. If you do not invest wisely, it could result in you making a loss instead of profit.  This is just how it applies to  time, spending your time on productive things is just like investing, the yield of those things you have spent your time doing will be the profit or loss. How well do you use your time?

It is one thing to have the time and it is also another thing to utilise it well. Some of us have the time, but we choose to spend it on the wrong things. Time is so precious that you can’t afford to disregard it; some people are out there wishing they had the time you have now, because they have learnt their lesson, but guess what? It’s too late because that time has been lost. You have the time now, utilise it, and make good use of every second, minute and hour . Spend it on things that are worthwhile, spend it on productive things. Don’t wait till everything goes bad, start now! and if you want your future to be bright, you have to spend your time on the right things.

If you spend your time on the right things, at the end of the day, you can look back with no regrets on how you have spent your time. Time waits for no man, opportunity knocks but ONCE. If you use your time well, you would be at the door when opportunity comes knocking, but if you use your time wrongly, you might just be sitting on the sofa when opportunity comes and by the time you get to the door, it would be too late.

Having said this…Feel free to comment by giving your definition of time, I mean in your own words.

Before I stop…uhmm a friend of mine gave me a definition, hmm God help us with all this people going to school ehn! Too much grammar… Here’s what he said;

‘Time is what guides everything we do, it causes universal equilibrium in an irreversible succession’’

Yeah am thinking what you’re thinking…Lol

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